These days , if you will see a guy with a beach hat and a dholak in our house. That is none other than the head of the family , my husband and Aryan's father. The guy has to do all that just to bring a smile on his son's face. The ritual is , as soon as father enters the bedroom , the toddler will come running with the hat and dholak. The father will wear the hat and 'drum' the dholak. This happens as many times a day as possible.